This blog is about my reaction to words we run into every day. At different times in our lives even simple words mean different things. My wish is that when you read my blog you feel something you did not feel before and motivate yourself toward something new.


by Motivation on April 25, 2017

lemon-tree-container-11-550x830A few months ago my cousin returned from a weekend away with some of her closest friends and when I asked her how it was, she said, “It was perfect.” I asked what made it perfect, she said, “We’re all still growing.”  “Still growing” was the equivalent of perfect. I couldn’t agree more.

This is the time of year when things grow right before our eyes. I have a lemon tree and I realized in December it didn’t look as robust as the lemon trees I was seeing in pictures. Some of the leaves were turning brown and there weren’t as many lemons popping up. My lemon tree wasn’t growing the way it should.

When I researched the problem I discovered it needed more direct sun than I was giving it and that when I watered it, I needed to saturate the soil a few inches down. So I have started loosening up the soil before watering and moved the plant into direct sun.

The change in only a month with the new location and new watering routine is remarkable. More buds for leaves and even a few flower buds!

It’s growing!

That’s how we grow. We replant. Look at things from a different perspective and change the way we take in physical and mental nourishment.  Consider the proverbial leaves on your tree. Do you feel the way you want to feel? Are new things coming out of you? Are you feeling you could grow faster?

Communication is the first place we can start to uncover all the ways we can grow.
Start by asking yourself…

Am I communicating in a way that makes it easy for people to communicate with me? Am I communicating in ways that express my wants & needs? Am I communicating in a way that has a positive effect on those in both my professional and personal life?

With clients in my Communcations Training we focus on:

  • What to say
  • How to speak up
  • When to listen

You know you’re on the path to growing when…

  • You speak of plans, not excuses
  • You have realizations, not regrets
  • You understand where you’ve been and regularly make room for where you are going.

My cousin discovered this perfect moment while she was with friends she loved on a vacation together. This is a signal that sometimes we need to get out of our space to re-discover what is growing. You can find the better place to grow within yourself. You don’t need to buy anything or even move much.  Your version of perfect (like my cousin’s) may be closer than you thought.





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by Motivation on January 11, 2017

lin-manuel-miranda-hamiltonChristmas Eve morning I woke up at 4:30 from a GREAT dream. My subconscious was so active that when I woke up I felt like I was finishing an actual conversation I was having in real time and I felt really motivated.

I dreamt that Lin Manuel Miranda, the creator of “Hamilton” The Musical (as if I need to tell you who he is) called to say he’d like to be a speaker at my networking dinner.

He was kind and humble and really interested because he’d heard about the event from a friend and, initially, I thought he was calling to talk about his friend being a guest speaker. The details on who the friend was (in the dream) were shaky but his desire to communicate with me about my event was clear and by the end of the call it felt like we’d become great friends.

Then I woke up.

I’m sharing my dream to illustrate that great offers are presented to us in every space we enter and it happens to you too. In an improv scene, an Offer is something the improviser recognizes and uses to help them move the scene forward.  Something new and often funny is created.

I saw the dream as an offer and as a result I assembled a list of people I would like to advise and work with for keynotes, workshops and have as guest speakers for my dinners.

How can you spot an offer?

  • Offers are unexpected and when they first present themselves you might think, “I’ll do that later” or “That’s crazy”. This happened to me before I realized it was time to write my upcoming book. More on that in my February blog!
  • The offers – that are the most valuable – come to you from people you really like and admire and when they first happen, you often feel separate or unworthy of the next move.

What happens when you say YES to offers?

  • You learn to get outside of your comfort zone more often – where you want to be as often as possible – because you GROW outside your comfort zone.
  • You receive the invitations you want from more new people.
  • You end up saying YES to less because you’ve learned to receive only the offers you need for now. Interactions are easier because you’ve increased your confidence and are communicating more clearly what value you have to offer.

While my conversation with Lin Manuel Miranda happened in my dream – and not in real life – it’s helped me to be alert to what is in front of me. It motivated me to take action and think bigger than what I’d originally planned.

My hope is that hearing about the offer I received helps you to wake up to possibilities in front of you.  Let this be YOUR YES year!







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December 19, 2016

We are all very different and yet, we all want the same things. We want to be happy and feel successful. Getting to this seems much harder than it’s ever been before. We’re having a hard time because there are more places than ever to communicate. We’re posting, emailing, texting, talking on our phones. We’re […]

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October 26, 2016

I am often asked how I grew such a network of people and how I get the speakers for my networking dinners. How did I land Ryan Smith, Head of Global Human Resources for GE Business Innovations, overseeing 20,000 people? How did I turn guest Lt. Gen. Mills into a regular coaching client? How did […]

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July 26, 2016

The messages of conflict presented to us in the news every day may keep us from feeling like we have control over what happens in our lives.  Now more than ever, we need to uncover ways to communicate successfully. I said YES to an invitation to speak alongside the former President of Planned Parenthood, Gloria […]

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July 7, 2016

There are events in life that present themselves over and over again and there are events in life that happen only once. This past month, I watched my oldest son graduate from high school and attend his college orientation. These milestones went off without a hitch, but not without some struggle and a lot of […]

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April 15, 2016

I recently had a meltdown and caused a scene in front of my children in reaction to something their father – my former significant other – said to me. I am not proud of the way I yelled and lost my temper. I am not proud of how long it took me to pull myself […]

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February 13, 2016

You can love anything. You can love a day of the week, you can love a particular kind of food, you can love a song and you can love a sound. You can love anything. Love is available to you in every space you enter. I encourage my clients to tap into the way they […]

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December 15, 2015

In the past week, two clients told me they would like to develop the skill of “being brief”.  They feel they talk too much therefore sounding less confident when they communicate. Mastering and knowing when to activate this skill can mean closing an important deal or simply empowering a colleague or someone we love to […]

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September 20, 2015

We all use words that are unnecessary, whether it’s over-communicating or inserting a negative overtone.  Working one-on-one with clients, together we carve out certain words they are using that may be keeping them from saying what they want to say or from having their family, friends or co-workers understand them more fully. I call the […]

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