This blog is about my reaction to words we run into every day. At different times in our lives even simple words mean different things. My wish is that when you read my blog you feel something you did not feel before and motivate yourself toward something new.


by Jeanne on December 21, 2017


I came for groceries and left with an unexpected gift.

Armed with my shopping list, I recently set off to the grocery store. I usually have one member of my brood with me to make the task move quickly. This time I was alone.

When I got to the aisle where the case of water (I buy every week) is housed I realized I needed help or was gong to skip getting the water.  I moved to the deli section (one aisle from the water) and in back of a guy who looked a little older than my sons.

I asked if he could help me by lifting and putting a case of water in my cart.  He immediately said yes and as he put it in my cart I thanked him and told him I recently had minor surgery and was not supposed to lift anything heavy because of my stitches.  He said, “No problem at all. I’m glad you asked.”

With the focus back to rest of my shopping, I completed my weekly duty.

Walking out to the crowded, dark parking lot I started to think about how I was going to get the case out of the cart.  I thought I would try to lift it or leave it in the cart if I felt any pain.

Then I saw the same guy who helped me.  He was standing in the parking lot waiting to help me put the case of water and all my groceries in the car!

I had tears in my eyes and thanked him over and over.

His name was John, he recently graduated from SUNY Maritime and is an engineer working in the city.  On this day he was an angel.

The gift of his unexpected action will stay with me. He helped me to remember how we can support and stay attentive to people in the littlest ways and give the biggest gifts.

Today and all throughout the year may we be as attentive to the needs of others more often than we are not.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

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by Motivation on August 30, 2017

earThis is my pretty little left ear. I’m paying homage to it because it’s asking for my attention.

On Wednesday July 26th at 11am it stopped hearing. I know what time it was because it was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.  I knew something was wrong.  My ear stopped working.

Two emergency rooms, MRI, CT Scan, blood work, steroids, another MRI and a few other locations/goodies have been part of my adventures since that moment in July.  No trace of stroke or tumor was found.  Phew!

I am doing everything I can possibly do to find out if it’s permanent, what caused it and what the solutions are to make me comfortable if it is permanent.

My life was pretty darn full when this happened.  Like most of you, I had enough on my plate. Then THIS!  There was every reason for me to make myself crazy, feel overloaded, worry and ask “Why me?”

I did those things for a little bit and then I decided to trust.

I trust that all will be well. I trust that I have the power and resourcefulness to get what I need to move through this by taking even greater care of the thoughts in my head and the love in my heart.

This is the perfect opportunity to perfect the work I do helping others to communicate through conflict.  THIS is a perfect example of conflict because conflict is something that takes us off our game.  How we communicate during times of conflict determines how much we move forward or stay stuck.

This is what I am doing to move forward and trust:

  • I am saying YES to what is in front of me.  I am not imagining outcomes that are not here because that would be looking for reasons to fear.
  • I am tuning down the input I generate and the input I receive from others.
  • I am grateful to wake up and be given the chance to live my life.  Today is perfect. Tomorrow is not here yet.

I have figured out that when I trust, I see and HEAR what I need to do to take my next step. When I do not trust, I become stressed and when I’m stressed and can’t see or HEAR what I need to see and HEAR to do what I need to do.

Quite frankly my friends, I am grateful to see, still hear out of one ear and to be able to walk and talk.  And heavens to Betsy, you know how much I LOVE to talk!

As I keep you posted on my progress, I promise to find more ways to uncover the power of YES with this event in my life to better help you navigate the conflict you encounter in yours.

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Your ego is made up of what you know about you, holding memories of both good and bad events, and of people who have disappointed you and people with which you’ve shared joy. The ego can hold a lot of information and can keep us stuck when we’re communicating. The ego looks to control things. […]

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April 25, 2017

A few months ago my cousin returned from a weekend away with some of her closest friends and when I asked her how it was, she said, “It was perfect.” I asked what made it perfect, she said, “We’re all still growing.”  “Still growing” was the equivalent of perfect. I couldn’t agree more. This is […]

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January 11, 2017

Christmas Eve morning I woke up at 4:30 from a GREAT dream. My subconscious was so active that when I woke up I felt like I was finishing an actual conversation I was having in real time and I felt really motivated. I dreamt that Lin Manuel Miranda, the creator of “Hamilton” The Musical (as […]

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December 19, 2016

We are all very different and yet, we all want the same things. We want to be happy and feel successful. Getting to this seems much harder than it’s ever been before. We’re having a hard time because there are more places than ever to communicate. We’re posting, emailing, texting, talking on our phones. We’re […]

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October 26, 2016

I am often asked how I grew such a network of people and how I get the speakers for my networking dinners. How did I land Ryan Smith, Head of Global Human Resources for GE Business Innovations, overseeing 20,000 people? How did I turn guest Lt. Gen. Mills into a regular coaching client? How did […]

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July 26, 2016

The messages of conflict presented to us in the news every day may keep us from feeling like we have control over what happens in our lives.  Now more than ever, we need to uncover ways to communicate successfully. I said YES to an invitation to speak alongside the former President of Planned Parenthood, Gloria […]

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July 7, 2016

There are events in life that present themselves over and over again and there are events in life that happen only once. This past month, I watched my oldest son graduate from high school and attend his college orientation. These milestones went off without a hitch, but not without some struggle and a lot of […]

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April 15, 2016

I recently had a meltdown and caused a scene in front of my children in reaction to something their father – my former significant other – said to me. I am not proud of the way I yelled and lost my temper. I am not proud of how long it took me to pull myself […]

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