by Motivation on September 20, 2015

Awareness-sessionsWe all use words that are unnecessary, whether it’s over-communicating or inserting a negative overtone.  Working one-on-one with clients, together we carve out certain words they are using that may be keeping them from saying what they want to say or from having their family, friends or co-workers understand them more fully.

I call the words they frequently use that may be causing them to be stagnant in their communication, “NO words”. We put them in a column and develop an awareness of when we are using them and practice using them less.

The words that are light and create a feeling of joy and forward motion are called “YES words”. We put those in a column and practice using them more.

Just is one of those words we rarely need and overuse.

“JUST” is one of the top NO words especially for women. I used to use it a lot so I understand the tendency to defer to it.

Good use of the word JUST:

“We just arrived!”

Bad use of the word JUST:

I’m just a mom.

I’m just here to help my friend.

I just want to understand what you’re saying.

I just can’t figure out what to do here.

Take a look at each of the sentences above and say them to yourself out loud and REMOVE the word “just” when you do. In fact, take a beat and be silent instead of using the word.

You will see you do not need the word “just” in most cases. The statement sounds clearer, more confident and you may even feel more powerful when you say the above sentences – even the “good use” version – without it.

Try this practice when you re-enter your life today. Pay attention to the word “Just” and see how often – if at all – you really need it.

Please let me know how you feel after instituting this practice. Let me know what I can do to help you increase your YES words.  Learn to communicate more effectively through my one-on-one coaching programs – I think you’ll love “A Yes Life By The Holidays!”

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