Sorry

by Motivation on April 15, 2016

I recently had a meltdown and caused a scene in front of my children in reaction to something their father – my former significant other – said to me.

I am not proud of the way I yelled and lost my temper. I am not proud of how long it took me to pull myself together.

Even though I planned on keeping this little episode to myself, I decided to invite my readers into this event because I went from feeling so awful about it to feeling much better about it after I said, “I’m sorry.”

It took me a day of cooling down before I could use the S word.  I was sure of all the reasons I was right for being mad. I reviewed them in my head and knew I had cause for feeling hurt enough to express it. I did not have cause for blowing up. THAT was wrong.

When I apologized, I did so by saying how sorry I felt for losing my cool and for making everyone so upset. Then I clearly stated what set me off and why.

When an actor leaves an improv scene they need to be different than they were at the beginning of the scene. They need to transform in order to present a pleasing story for the audience.

I needed to show my audience – my children – what it looked like to accept responsibility for my actions and be affected by the events enough to know I needed to apologize.

By saying I was sorry, I experienced outcomes of relief.

It is a lot easier to discuss new things I needed to discuss with my former significant other after clearing the air.

I felt less anguish about the thing that set me off when I blew up. Miraculously, I actually have trouble at this moment remembering what it was.

Since I make it my business to help people navigate conflict, it’s important to share how I’ve done it in my own life.

We all need a little relief sometimes. I learned from this scene that all the relief was mine for the asking. All the relief was mine with a simple word. Sorry.

I’d love to hear your comments on your own experience with this powerful word.

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