This blog is about my reaction to words we run into every day. At different times in our lives even simple words mean different things. My wish is that when you read my blog you feel something you did not feel before and motivate yourself toward something new.

NEST

by Jeanne on September 26, 2019

 

A wonderful friend was checking in after our summer break and she asked, “How’s the empty nest?” and she kept going laughing to herself saying, “which is far from empty because YOU are in it!”

In all the months I’ve been talking about being an “empty nester” with all the people who have brought it up not ONE person said this.  Not ONE person. Not me. Not another person.  The most obvious point about this oft used term was never mentioned.

In August, my oldest and youngest started their senior and freshman years of college, respectively. The months and weeks leading up to their departure where full. Both had very different needs of their mother.  Our nest buzzed with a flurry of activity and was filled with lists, choices, forms, decisions, lots of stuff and even more emotion.

One month in, all is well. I’m learning to live with the stillness.  And I like it.

While the absence of my children is certainly felt, more than anything I feel the presence of ME more than I ever have before.

My nest is not only “filled” with me, my nest feels rich and not the least bit empty.

It’s rich with ideas and the space to communicate them to myself.

It’s rich with downtime to read, walk more and enjoy the silence.

It’s rich with simple choices about what to eat and what to watch on tv.

It’s rich with extra time left over from all the laundry I am NOT doing.

It’s rich with more writing which I forgot how much I missed.

It’s rich with daily dog walks, the Freshman left his beloved Labrador with me.

It’s rich with less lights on and showers being taken.

It’s rich with seeing more of my professional plans come to fruition.

I am a firm believer in always making room for yourself somehow, every day, no matter how many people you live with and how full your life is.  I’ve learned from this personal transformation there are many things that you can only experience at a certain point of your life.

I have my nest all to myself and every single day I realize more fully how much we do for others instead of ourselves when we share a space with those we love.

I have not written a post here in over a year because I’ve focused on an increasingly large number of clients (for which I am grateful to have and honored to serve).  I’ve focused on three non-profits on whose boards I served. I’ve focused on an expanding speaking business, the Jeanne Stafford’s Networking Dinner guests I continue to host and all the wonderful author events from the release of my first book Think. Drink. Eat. Move.; 4 Steps to YES!

When I write all that and remember it was in concert with the care of humans experiencing huge transitions in their lives, I’m pretty dang proud.

Who and what fills your nest?  How has it changed?  Have you changed with it?

I hope you’ll take a new look at your present nest and remember nothing is empty that has YOU in it!

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Care

by Jeanne on June 14, 2018

Who takes care of you?

Most of us have a tough time answering this.  Most of us know who we take care of but not who takes care of us.

This may be because the answer is so simple, it’s hard to imagine it’s true.

The person who takes care of you is you.

It is possible to train yourself to understand that you have enough power to take care of your greatest and most immediate needs.

When you train yourself to do this you’ll remove years worth of stress and fatigue.  This includes the stress and fatigue built up from the past and the stress and fatigue lurking in your thoughts about the future.

You can become an expert at your care and then someday, when it’s time to ask for it from someone else you will do so with very little effort.  You will be able to do so from a place of inner power instead of that of a victim who has never been cared for.

This year I had to ask for a lot more care than I have ever had to ask for and it was the most unnatural and uncomfortable thing to go through.   This was time for Jeanne to learn something new. What I learned was it’s easier to receive from others when you have learned to give to yourself.

Caring for yourself is how we get better at communicating what we want from the world and getting it!  The result is that more people want to help us, care for us and learn from us.

As you head into summer there are plenty of opportunities to make this important change.  These are my four steps to get there.  Why four steps?  Because I love the number four and when I use it in any strategy, I feel like I am focused.  It’s a way of caring for myself by simplifying my thoughts.  See how easy that was?

Four Steps to Your Daily Caring Strategy

1Write down the things you want to make easier. Make the list short.  What do you want to make easier? Is it streamlining the format for how you create content like the example I gave above? Would you like to get that bank app to make check deposits easier?  Do you want to set a reminder on your phone to take a five-minute break?  Do you want to get up earlier so you can start the day with a mediation or prayer or have time to read or time to write?

2. Connect with your INTENTION behind the step for your care. Will creating your own rules for writing help you deliver better content faster? (My answer is YES to that).  Will getting up earlier help you to feel more productive?  Communicating intention helps to deepen the trust you have in your own decision making.  When it comes to trust, the trust you have in YOU is the most important trust you can have.

3. Celebrate ANY success you have. If you accomplish anything tell yourself how proud you are when you consciously get this done. If this is less than what you hoped for, shorten the list.  You have ENOUGH on your plate and this is the reason that caring for yourself is on your mind.  You have the power to shorten your list, so exercise your power!

4. Tell someone you adore what you are doing and how you FEEL. See if they want to get on the care bandwagon, too. I’ll bet they’ll say…YES!

Write, Connect, Celebrate and Tell!  Those are four things you can do easily and then by the end of summer when someone asks who cares for you, your answer will be simple.  “Me!”

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GIFT

December 21, 2017

I came for groceries and left with an unexpected gift. Armed with my shopping list, I recently set off to the grocery store. I usually have one member of my brood with me to make the task move quickly. This time I was alone. When I got to the aisle where the case of water […]

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Trust

August 30, 2017

This is my pretty little left ear. I’m paying homage to it because it’s asking for my attention. On Wednesday July 26th at 11am it stopped hearing. I know what time it was because it was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.  I knew something was wrong.  My ear stopped working. Two emergency rooms, MRI, CT […]

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Ego

July 10, 2017

Your ego is made up of what you know about you, holding memories of both good and bad events, and of people who have disappointed you and people with which you’ve shared joy. The ego can hold a lot of information and can keep us stuck when we’re communicating. The ego looks to control things. […]

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Growing

April 25, 2017

A few months ago my cousin returned from a weekend away with some of her closest friends and when I asked her how it was, she said, “It was perfect.” I asked what made it perfect, she said, “We’re all still growing.”  “Still growing” was the equivalent of perfect. I couldn’t agree more. This is […]

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Offer

January 11, 2017

Christmas Eve morning I woke up at 4:30 from a GREAT dream. My subconscious was so active that when I woke up I felt like I was finishing an actual conversation I was having in real time and I felt really motivated. I dreamt that Lin Manuel Miranda, the creator of “Hamilton” The Musical (as […]

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Simple

December 19, 2016

We are all very different and yet, we all want the same things. We want to be happy and feel successful. Getting to this seems much harder than it’s ever been before. We’re having a hard time because there are more places than ever to communicate. We’re posting, emailing, texting, talking on our phones. We’re […]

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Formula

October 26, 2016

I am often asked how I grew such a network of people and how I get the speakers for my networking dinners. How did I land Ryan Smith, Head of Global Human Resources for GE Business Innovations, overseeing 20,000 people? How did I turn guest Lt. Gen. Mills into a regular coaching client? How did […]

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Conversation

July 26, 2016

The messages of conflict presented to us in the news every day may keep us from feeling like we have control over what happens in our lives.  Now more than ever, we need to uncover ways to communicate successfully. I said YES to an invitation to speak alongside the former President of Planned Parenthood, Gloria […]

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