This blog is about my reaction to words we run into every day. At different times in our lives even simple words mean different things. My wish is that when you read my blog you feel something you did not feel before and motivate yourself toward something new.

R.B.G

by peaveym1 on

Illustration by Patricia van Essche

Today, a great American woman will be laid to rest. And rest is what she has earned.

There was no one like her before and there will never be another in the future. This is because Ruth Bader Ginsberg was molded by the time she was given.

She used the time she was given not to scream and yell and complain about what was wrong. She used the time she was given to learn and grow and relate and participate.

She used the time she was given not to fold her arms and stamp her feet in protest. She used the time she was given to give back and mentor and lead when there was no one like her to follow.

I once played Ruth Bader Ginsberg in an improv scene.

She was a dream character.

She was a dream character because she communicated without speaking. Her eyes, her smile and her gait all “spoke” to you before she actually spoke.

This was all I needed to remember in order to play her.

There was nothing about this life of hers that was easy. Not. One. Thing. Even the great love of her life needed her to play many roles to care for him as well as go to school in his place while he was ill.

Can you imagine?

Neither can I.

Nothing stopped this petite force of nature from soaking up every ounce of life she could possibly take from this turn she was given.

She was able to form deep long-lasting friendships with people whose politics differed from hers.

She lived a life devoted to understanding and communicating the rule of law.

She lived in a time when our culture made it hard to make space for a strong woman like her.

She made space for the love of her life to advocate for her when her well-deserved turn and next ascent in life needed advocacy.

She was a master at silence and stature.

She was a master at presence and perseverance.

She was a master of femininity and force.

Let’s salute this American life by being molded by the time we are given. Let’s unfold our arms and find people to mentor. Let’s not complain, let’s relate to one another.

Let’s engage each other with fewer words, greater force and the belief that action will move us much further than anger will.

Let’s honor this great American woman the way she honored everything that was possible in the time she was given.

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NEST

by Jeanne on

 

A wonderful friend was checking in after our summer break and she asked, “How’s the empty nest?” and she kept going laughing to herself saying, “which is far from empty because YOU are in it!”

In all the months I’ve been talking about being an “empty nester” with all the people who have brought it up not ONE person said this.  Not ONE person. Not me. Not another person.  The most obvious point about this oft used term was never mentioned.

In August, my oldest and youngest started their senior and freshman years of college, respectively. The months and weeks leading up to their departure where full. Both had very different needs of their mother.  Our nest buzzed with a flurry of activity and was filled with lists, choices, forms, decisions, lots of stuff and even more emotion.

One month in, all is well. I’m learning to live with the stillness.  And I like it.

While the absence of my children is certainly felt, more than anything I feel the presence of ME more than I ever have before.

My nest is not only “filled” with me, my nest feels rich and not the least bit empty.

It’s rich with ideas and the space to communicate them to myself.

It’s rich with downtime to read, walk more and enjoy the silence.

It’s rich with simple choices about what to eat and what to watch on tv.

It’s rich with extra time left over from all the laundry I am NOT doing.

It’s rich with more writing which I forgot how much I missed.

It’s rich with daily dog walks, the Freshman left his beloved Labrador with me.

It’s rich with less lights on and showers being taken.

It’s rich with seeing more of my professional plans come to fruition.

I am a firm believer in always making room for yourself somehow, every day, no matter how many people you live with and how full your life is.  I’ve learned from this personal transformation there are many things that you can only experience at a certain point of your life.

I have my nest all to myself and every single day I realize more fully how much we do for others instead of ourselves when we share a space with those we love.

I have not written a post here in over a year because I’ve focused on an increasingly large number of clients (for which I am grateful to have and honored to serve).  I’ve focused on three non-profits on whose boards I served. I’ve focused on an expanding speaking business, the Jeanne Stafford’s Networking Dinner guests I continue to host and all the wonderful author events from the release of my first book Think. Drink. Eat. Move.; 4 Steps to YES!

When I write all that and remember it was in concert with the care of humans experiencing huge transitions in their lives, I’m pretty dang proud.

Who and what fills your nest?  How has it changed?  Have you changed with it?

I hope you’ll take a new look at your present nest and remember nothing is empty that has YOU in it!

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Care

June 14, 2018

Who takes care of you? Most of us have a tough time answering this.  Most of us know who we take care of but not who takes care of us. This may be because the answer is so simple, it’s hard to imagine it’s true. The person who takes care of you is you. It […]

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GIFT

December 21, 2017

I came for groceries and left with an unexpected gift. Armed with my shopping list, I recently set off to the grocery store. I usually have one member of my brood with me to make the task move quickly. This time I was alone. When I got to the aisle where the case of water […]

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Trust

August 30, 2017

This is my pretty little left ear. I’m paying homage to it because it’s asking for my attention. On Wednesday July 26th at 11am it stopped hearing. I know what time it was because it was unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.  I knew something was wrong.  My ear stopped working. Two emergency rooms, MRI, CT […]

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Ego

July 10, 2017

Your ego is made up of what you know about you, holding memories of both good and bad events, and of people who have disappointed you and people with which you’ve shared joy. The ego can hold a lot of information and can keep us stuck when we’re communicating. The ego looks to control things. […]

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Growing

April 25, 2017

A few months ago my cousin returned from a weekend away with some of her closest friends and when I asked her how it was, she said, “It was perfect.” I asked what made it perfect, she said, “We’re all still growing.”  “Still growing” was the equivalent of perfect. I couldn’t agree more. This is […]

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Offer

January 11, 2017

Christmas Eve morning I woke up at 4:30 from a GREAT dream. My subconscious was so active that when I woke up I felt like I was finishing an actual conversation I was having in real time and I felt really motivated. I dreamt that Lin Manuel Miranda, the creator of “Hamilton” The Musical (as […]

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Simple

December 19, 2016

We are all very different and yet, we all want the same things. We want to be happy and feel successful. Getting to this seems much harder than it’s ever been before. We’re having a hard time because there are more places than ever to communicate. We’re posting, emailing, texting, talking on our phones. We’re […]

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Formula

October 26, 2016

I am often asked how I grew such a network of people and how I get the speakers for my networking dinners. How did I land Ryan Smith, Head of Global Human Resources for GE Business Innovations, overseeing 20,000 people? How did I turn guest Lt. Gen. Mills into a regular coaching client? How did […]

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